Cheat...or Tell?
Dear Ali,
There is this cute popular boy who sits beside me. Sometimes he looks off my paper when he doesn't know how to do his work. Afterwards, he is nice to me and treats me like I'm popular. Once I told him no, and he got upset! Should I let him look off my paper and be cool, or not?
-Wannabe Popular
Popular or not, it's definitely not cool to cheat, and that's just what this boy is doing. He's also using you by being nice only when you let him copy your paper, and that's not cool, either! You know in your heart what's right: Everyone should do his own work. If it's just too hard to say no to him, ask your teacher (in private!) to move you to a different seat so you're not constantly faced with this dilemma. Good luck!
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I know its hard!
I know its hard to say no to a hot boy ,but you need to say no. If he dousnt listen then tell the teacher.
NO!!!!!!
If this guy is cheating off of your paper, you are obviously way smarter than he is! Why would you even want to be freinds with someone who cheats off you?
reply to NO!!!
Your totally right! Some boys are cute but stupid, so even if he’s cute, he cheats of your paper! He’s probably one of those jerk boys. No matter how cute he is, you should say no.
say no!
it may seem pretty cool at da time, to be treated like a popular queen or whatev but just say no b/c if u don’t u’ll TOTALLY regret it. u studied hard so don’t let anybody copy that!
reply
Same thing happened 2 my mom when she was in school!!
no way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Girl don’t let him cheat off your paper hes just trying to cheat don’t let him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
reply to NO!!!!!
Yeah she is totally right! Dont let that happen! You are way smarter than he is and youve got to make him relize that cheating is not the answer!
Noo
does it really matter that he is popular I mean if he was the dorkiest ugliest person in school would you let him cheat off you. You probably wouldn’t!! Tell him to stop
No way!!!!
I agree. Don’t let him cheat just because he is popular and cute. That is SSOO not a good reason. Tell him no and if he continues tell your teacher and ask to change seats.
Say NO!
Sometimes it’s hard to say no, but even if he gets amd and may not like you, at least you did the right thing.
Maybe....
I totally agree. Maybe he’ll realize what he’s doing is wrong. It’s always better to do whats right!!!!
Agree
I totally agree.you should always tell when somebody’s cheating, even if it’s a cute boy.
-me-
boys
He’s just a boy! If he’s cheating then tell the teacher! There’s so many more hot boys out there. oviasly, he’s not all that great if he’s cheating from your paper! And if you want, you can put your arm next to your paper so he doesn’t see or turn side ways so he can’t see your paper! Good luck!
From: Girl in new york
Tell The Truth
Youd don’t need to tell the teacher. The next time he cheats kindly look over and tell him that even though you like him no friend of yours will ever be cheater. Tell him that and he will regret ever being a cheater.
Popularity
Even though you want to be cool, you still have to say no some times!
Coincidence
OMG! I have the same problem! I use to let the cute popular boy cheat off my paper, but then I found out that he liked this popular girl! I was so crushed! My mistake was that I shouldn’t of ever let him copy my school work! •
It might be hard but whats wrong is wrong!
~no subject~
just ignore him and hide your paper!it’s alot easier than tellin the teacher!and people won’t think your snitch!!
wannabe popular
well i think that if the cute, popular guy only likes you to cheat off of… well i think you should either tell a teacher or something. because if he only likes you to cheat off of your paper; its not worth it. if you let someone cheat off of you for popularity well i micht not know you but i think thats not being your self.
-Sydney
think about it...
if he is just being nice to you for your answers, then he is pretty much using you for the benefit for himself. talk to him that you really don’t like it when he copies off you. if he doesn’t seem to understand and just blows you off, then you’re better off without him! and as for the popularity, do you really want to be popular by him or by you and your sparkling personality? think about it…
Even though he looks hot,
Even though he looks hot, he’s not worth you if he cheats! Someday there will be someone who likes you for who you are, and not for your answers.
Ask Ali
I wouldn’t care how cute he is. Cheating is WRONG.
okay,you can either 1. do
okay,you can either 1. do something wrong and let him cheat off you,or 2. you can do something right and tell him to stop.you should tell him first before the teacher so he does not get into immedeit trouble.if he continues to cheat,tell the teacher.it isn’t worth the popularity to do something like this.
it isn’t right to let him
it isn’t right to let him cheat.you should tell him to stop and if he says no tell the teacher.it isn’t worth the popularity to do something wrong
it isn't worth it
It isn’t worth all the coolness to do something wrong.But here’s a tip:Always tell the person who is cheating off of you to stop before you tattle on her/him.It can start a HUGE fight when you tell the teacher first without letting her/him know.That can save a friendship if you tell her/him first.Hope this helps!
NO
SAY NO! this boy is taking advantage of you! I once had super cute, popular boy sit in front of me. He would turn around and ask to copy my paper. I was all like, ” No, you can do it yourself.” He made a pouty face, but i stood my ground and he sighed and turned around. Try it.
WHATEVER
You should ask your teacher to switch desks but tell her to not tell the class the reason.And besides theirs more things to life than hot boys.
Just Move
Dear Wannabe, I f you MUST be friends with this boy, try to avoid sitting next to him. If you do switch seats, alert the person that is now sitting next to him what you went through. They may be able to do something to help.
Cheat...Or tell
He may just be using you by being nice to you afterwards jusst to get answers. Say “no!”, or maybe talk to your teacher about having your desks moved so you don’t sit next to him.
cheat... or tell
next time he cheats go up to your teacher and ask if you three you,him and your teacher could talk about it during recess so you dont ruin his reputation hey maybe he will thank you
cheating
Tell him that cheating is dumb and he’ll feel better if he does his own work. let him know that you won’t let him cheat off u anymore and tell the teacher to move u if he still tries. —-Emy
Don't Let Em!
Just because he’s super-cute and a popular dude, does not give him the right to cheat off of your paper! If you keep letting him do this, YOU also could get into trouble! It might be hard, but you know you’ve gotta do it girlie! -Good Luck! YOU CAN DOOOO IT! =P
-AdViCe GiVeR-
Reply to Don't Let Him
I know exactly how you feel. There was a guy that cheated next to me, too! I told the teacher, and he got tooken care of. That’s what you should do.
Hmmmm.......
Well all i can say is don’t let him take advantedge of you. He should be doing his work an not using yours.
Wannabe advice
Hey, It isn’t worth leting him cheat even if he’s gonna give you “Popularness”!! If you don’t act sooner you’ll get introuble too. So it’s not worth it,`cause you’re gonna get caught the,”The hard way”!!
—Isabella
Just Keep your Paper To Yourself
I know it’s hard to not let someone you like look at your paper but it’s not fair to you or the boy, just keep your paper to yourself and if your still feeling like he’s cheating tell the teacher you need to move closer to the front of the classroom you don’t have to tell her why! That way your crush will never know you ratted him out.
Bad Boy!!!!
That guy is not good at all!!! If you hate it just tell your teacher. Maybe they will move him to another spot. And if you think he is cute tell him you like him and you don’t like it how he cheats off your paper. So I hope you get ride of the problem if he is in your class next year.
cheater boy
U should totally not let him cheat off u!! i know its really hard to deny someone (especially if hes total cutie) but u have to let him know that u think its wrong and if he doesn’t stop after that u should totally tell a parent or a teacher.
p.s. this is sooo hard evan when my little bro askes me for something i have a hard time telling him no. rock on!!!
-sarai
Popular or not you need to
Popular or not you need to ask him to stop and if he doesn’t tell your teacher or ask your teacher to have your desk moved.
OMG!
This boy is totally using you for his own personal gain! If you help him and he gets caught you could get in big trouble too, which is awful! In twenty years this boys popularity will have gotten him nowhere, especially since he’s a cheater.
DON'T LET HIM
Do you want this “cute” boy to ruin his own life? If he doesn’t learn to do things himself he wont be able to live right. You can’t get a job if you don’t know the basics.
What on the inside
I think you should tell, or talk to the boy about it.he may get upset, but atleast he knows that you don’t want to get him in trouble. I hope things work out. it’s not what is on the outside, but in the inside.
Cheatign is bad!!!!!
I think you sould put your foot down and tell him to stop cheating.If he still cheats try to put foulders up,and tellyour teacherand,maby thay will seperate you to. Ashlee
oh man!
a boy use to cheat off of me. and he was my crush!!! i knew it wasn’t right, but it was my crush, so why should i tell? i never said anything nd he kept on cheating off of me. and guess what happen.i got in trouble, becuase he said I was cheaating off of HIM!!!i finally cam clean, and i became his tutor.i made a schedule for him and hefinally stopped cheating off of me.
Cheater
If you dont tell someone your grades could suffer. If that happened to me I would be mad. I would definatly not want someone cheating off of me no matter how cute he is.
-Alyssa, 11, Ontario
Reply for cheater
Do not let your grades suffer because of him.If he keeps cheating tell him to stop because he needs to do his best not your best.If you san not get him to stop mabey talk to the teacher,
From Experience...
In 6th grade there was a guy that I hate, who annoyed me in homeroom. He has been the name before mine since 1st geade, so I have to live with it. Since I’m in almost all of his classes, he asks me for the homework every day. Since I want a good reputation, I agree. Later on in the year, I took advantage of it and made him pay me for it. That backed him off a little, but he still annoyed me. Now I understand that I shouldn’t have done that, because you can get in huge troble for helping someone cheat, as well as cheating. Try to explain it to him, and maybe he’ll understand. If he doesn’t get it, say no. A gir’s gotta know when enough is!
Just Say No
Dont let this boy push you around say no and mean it!! Tell u should the teacher.
Wannabe Popular-You
Wannabe Popular-
You shouldn’t let this boy cheat. You could get into trouble for cheating and this doesn’t help the boy in the long run. If you let him cheat, then he will never learn. It also sounds like this boy is taking advantage of you.
Good luck!
Nikki
Not so Popular
Tell!Tell your teacher that your having some cheating problems with the person next to you.It’s nice to be popular,but you should still do what’s best.
You are already popular if your nice and kind but...
You are already popular and kind but if he cheats off your paper hes not popular hes just stupied! If he does it again, tell him how you feel about it and he might understand. give him an I message example[ Rick i dont like it when you are hogging the computer, i want to to stop!] and dont be scared to do it he will understand! Just be nice while saying it but stern too
HE IS NOT WORTH IT THEN..........
even no u think he is hot if he cheats or copies u u need to tell the teacher there is no right to cheat or not tell anyone because u like him and i think u think that if u tell u will be in trouble u will not tell a teacher and they will not say ur name if u tell them not to say it remember that no boy is worth it if they r copinging u
u could ask the boy if he wants u to help him then u could be with him and he will not cheat or copie anymore hope that answers it for u!!!
To Cheat or Not to Cheat
sometimes if i know my friend truly doesnt understand the work i help him/her out, because if they just copy, i feel like they would get some of the credit for my work, and later when they have no choice but to work on something independently they wont understand it.
say no no matter what
Its hard to say no to a really cute boy but no matter what you cant let him talk you into letting him cheat off your paper its wrong and you know that . You should talk to him alone and say please dont cheat of my paper there s lots of other ways we can be friends if we could be friends maybe i could help you on a test by studing for it. You could ask the teacher to move you or you could sit in a corner and do your work there and then when your done you could move back to your desk.
Me too
I have the same problem with a girl in my English class. She’s really cool and goes to my church but I don’t think it’s righ to let her cheat.
SAYING NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I totally agree if its a hot and cool boy he can be hard to say no to, but you got to stick up for yourself and not let any boy cheat off of you no matter how cute he is.
Lets talk...
You should talk to him about this.say things like how he won’t learn anything like that and he just might get caught one day.Warn him that you don’t want to be his cheat sheet or ask your teacher if you can move else where.or you could even try to tutor him after school.Do what ever you think is right!
Ok
My friend has the same problem but only its my crush.C my crush sits next 2 my friend in math class and he copies off of her and i feel stupid cuz i like an idiot!O and also instead of telling the teacher she hits him the other day she stabed him with a pencil and he didnt tell on her.I thought it waz funny!
TELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You should tell who cares if hes cute and popular. Do you really want him to cheat? But if you say don’t tell just ask to change seats. But whatever you do DO NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! let him just do that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You can offer to help him
You can offer to help him out with the work if he can’t understand it. If it’s a quiz or test, keep some blank paper nearby to cover your test with. Ask your teacher if you can move to another desk. If you must, and you know the answers, write the wrong answers for some of your questions then quickly change them when he turns in his paper. If he cheats anyway, tell your teacher and he/she will figure something out.
Ask the teacher
Ask the teacher if you can move seats far away from “the cheater”. Explain to her how he is bothing you and how you can’t pay attention. Or ask the teacher to move him to a new seat far away from you. Hope this helps!!
dont let him!
If thet popular boy cheats off of you he wont be learning anything! Alos what if the person sitting next to him donst get any of the anwsers. Hell get a F! At my school were in groups and if you dont do well with a group your on your own. If that happeded to him he couldnt cheat and he would get the grade he really deserves.
-dont let him
Easy.
When he eans over cover your paper and say ‘you look lost can I help you?’
if u keep on letting him he
if u keep on letting him he will do it till u or him gets in troble
Oh man.. Another Cheater
Hey, i know how u feel. There was this girl in my class who would’nt stop cheating off my page! It was soo annoying! Then i told my teacher, she moved her then it was better. Maybe u should try it.Good luck!
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go girl
tell he might be cute but you wont be when your both in trouble let him cheat off some one else crazy and mean boys are most of the time the cute ones
Noooooooo!
Even though the boy is cute does not mean you can let him cheat off your paper! You have to find a teacher and apoligize for letting him cheat. that is YOUR work not HIS.
Popular cheater
Hey he may be popular but he has NO right to cheat of you! And when he treats you popular after words don’t fall for it cause he is just using you! Tell someone! If you don’t want to rat him out tell someone who will rat him out FOR you.
Tell Him Off
Your cool for telling him no. Its not your fault that he can’t learn or ask questions from the teacher. If he still is cheating just tell the teacher because most teachers don’t tolerate cheating. He may be mad at you for a while but in the long run you will be doing him a favor for not letting him cheat. YOU will be teaching him that the only person he should cheat off of is himself. Also who cares about being cool. Its cooler to do your own work than to cheat.
tell him off
show eveyone that u r brave and then say get over it